Whats up guys,
I thought I'd write a bit to keep you updated on what's been going on lately.
I’ve been diving into this idea of "performing without purpose." It might sound a little strange—why move forward without a clear map or goal? But there’s something valuable in just doing, even without knowing exactly where it’s all headed. Sometimes, it’s the act itself that brings clarity.
Consistency.
Consistency in action is the foundation that drives results. It may seem like performing without purpose at times, but every small step compounds over time.
The Power of Consistency
The more I reflect, the more I see that consistency is the foundation for every good change in my life:
Relationships: Building a strong relationship with my wife, staying connected with my parents and friends.
Entrepreneurship: Moving forward in my journey, even when projects seemed uncertain.
Physical Health: Injury management, hyper-specific training, and maintaining the right mindset.
Mental Health: Meditation, journaling, and reshaping my mindset.
Consistency was not just the biggest factor—it was the factor that moved me forward.
Learning Through Struggles
Throughout my life, I tried many different methods to improve:
Worked extremely hard for short bursts of time.
Forced myself into a "flow state."
Tried changing my mindset overnight.
All of these led to burnout, procrastination, and despair. The only thing that worked was simple: consistent effort every single day. I had to shift my mindset and conduct a thorough life analysis to improve what truly mattered.
A few years back, I took a deep dive into my own self-awareness. I started analyzing every major event in my life and did some pretty eye-opening exercises, like writing down the life I wanted and the life I didn’t want. Honestly, it was hard at first. But doing that exercise made everything so much clearer—who I am, what I value, and which habits were moving me forward or holding me back.
The Moment of Self-Awareness
Three years ago, I analyzed every major event in my life up to that point. The pivotal moment in each positive change started with self-awareness. Here’s how I approached it:
Understanding Myself: I explored my personality using tools like 16 Personalities and the Predictive Index.
Evaluating My Life: I asked myself two questions:
What do I like or dislike about my current state?
What do I want, and what do I absolutely not want?
Envisioning Two Lives: I wrote down two visions:
Perfect Life: How I wanted my life to look—relationships, career, home, everything.
Destroyed Life: The life I would never want, full of bad habits and hardships.
This exercise forced me to acknowledge:
Who I am.
What I want and do not want.
Who I need to become to be successful.
Guiding Principles:
Acknowledge who you are.
Define the life you want—and the one you don’t.
Choose who you will become.
Building Habits, Good and Bad
This exercise gave me a guiding light. I started embodying the habits of the person I wanted to be while steering away from habits that would lead me to a life I didn’t want.
I realized that success wasn't just one consistent action—it was a string of small, consistent actions over time. These actions have been at the core of all the positive changes in my life:
Staying consistent with workouts helped me maintain my physical health.
Consistently nurturing my relationships built deeper connections.
Sticking to small routines helped me make progress, even in tough times.
On the flip side, I learned that bad habits also compound:
Skipping a workout one morning could snowball into a series of bad choices.
Sleeping in, procrastinating, and prioritizing comfort over effort created a ripple effect that impacted my entire day.
This realization led me to identify which habits were holding me back and actively correct them.
One Goal, One Choice
I began with a simple goal:
Set aside time for one task, every single day.
Sure, it wasn’t always easy. It often sucked. It was hard. But, this choice—to take action when it mattered most—was the most important one. It was about choosing who I wanted to become, moment by moment.
Start Today
Analyzing myself and my situation led me to make deliberate choices—choices that aligned with my goals and the future I wanted. If you want to become the person you aspire to be, it starts with a choice.
Make the choice today.
Commit to the small actions.
Become the person you want to be in the future.
Anyway, I just wanted to share that with you guys. Let me know if any of this resonates with you or if you have any thoughts!
Peace!
-Kyler